Most likely many of us have heard that old saying "Hindsight is 20/20." A clear definition of this saying is: In hindsight things are obvious that were not obvious from the outset; one is able to evaluate past choices more clearly than at the time of the choice. Have you ever made a decision to "have some fun" and then quickly or not so quickly realized it was not the best choice to make? We all have something we wish we could have a "do-over." As you read this blog, stop a second and think who or what is helping you make the best choices for you?
Marriage sometimes can feel like a 'death crawl" with added weight. Ever feel like your spouse is not "carrying their weight?" Could it possibly be they NEED you to "Not Quit on Them?" Are you willing to feel the "burn," "the hurt," ...Marriage is not ALWAYS going to feel good and we must "Not Quit on Me!" God has not QUIT and we MUST NOT QUIT! Invest 5 minutes for a new perspective of marriage!
Can you believe that we are STILL discussing shortcuts from that one little "drop" of the milk into the refrigerator shelf? Part 3 of the shortcut story brings the point home even more! You see our shortcut might be really quick and seem like no big deal; however, the process and developments of trying to "fix" the damage from the shortcut seems to take MUCH longer itself!
We learned in Shorcuts - Part 1 that there was a "price to pay" for not simply bending down and placing the milk in the shelf correctly. This week we will learn that trying to band-aid or duct tape our relationships will not be a permanent fix. We must take the TIME to develop and/or process issues as they arise. If we take the shortcut route, we are hindering our growth as a couple. It's your choice, what will it be?
We live in a FAST-PACED society! Most of us want everything RIGHT NOW! Many times we are looking for a "shortcut" so we can move on to the next thing. However, we must understand relationships will NEVER be able to mature and grow "correctly" if we try to shortcut the steps of development and process of them. Never forget...there is always a downside to "shortcut" a relationship! Do you really want to deprive yourself of ALL that God intended for you?
When it is raining outside, do you grab an umbrella? When you go to the beach, do you put sunscreen on? When the sun is brightly shining, do you grab your sunglasses? If you go to the gym do you wear gloves while lifting weights or boxing? Our guess is you answered YES to all of these questions. So what do all of these items have in common? For each question, there is a "protection" if you will for the answer. We don't want to get wet, so we grab an umbrella to PROTECT us! We don't want skin cancer, so we use sunscreen to PROTECT our skin and so forth. Now the BIGGEST question we have for you is...Who or what is PROTECTING your relationship?
In our relationships, we bring many different forms of "weapons" into our battles. Okay, so you don't like the word "battle," understand! How about "conflicts," "arguments," "disagreements," "discussions?" Do any of these sound better? Bottom line is a couple will NEVER agree 100% of the time. The time when we are in disagreement is when we normally bring out the "weapons." Today, we want to talk about one "weapon" that we encourage ALL couples to use. Yes, you heard right. This "weapon" is one that you need to keep sharp and ready at ALL times. NEVER should you have to "blow the dust" off of this one. Matter of fact, it should and needs to be the FIRST "weapon" you reach for!
2019 is here and many are making New Year's Resolutions. Most of us are conditioned by society to start something NEW at the beginning of a New Year or even at the beginning of the week. For example, very seldom do we start a new exercise program on a Wednesday. Most likely we say I will start "XYZ" on Monday. Of course, the NEW year is ALWAYS full of "I am going to start XYZ on January 1st." So how does the Fourth Commandment play into resolutions? Read on and see...