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Most likely many of us have heard that old saying "Hindsight is 20/20." A clear definition of this saying is: In hindsight things are obvious that were not obvious from the outset; one is able to evaluate past choices more clearly than at the time of the choice. Have you ever made a decision to "have some fun" and then quickly or not so quickly realized it was not the best choice to make? We all have something we wish we could have a "do-over." As you read this blog, stop a second and think who or what is helping you make the best choices for you?
Marriage sometimes can feel like a 'death crawl" with added weight. Ever feel like your spouse is not "carrying their weight?" Could it possibly be they NEED you to "Not Quit on Them?" Are you willing to feel the "burn," "the hurt," ...Marriage is not ALWAYS going to feel good and we must "Not Quit on Me!" God has not QUIT and we MUST NOT QUIT! Invest 5 minutes for a new perspective of marriage!
My fiancé and I were really intentional on wanting to do pre-marital counseling. We looked at several services, even looked into the church we attend. However, we met Doug at the Bridal Extravaganza Summer 2018. While I was searching, we were subscribed to them and received an email about an upcoming date. The price was ONLY $35 just to register for an 8-hour session...
Can you believe that we are STILL discussing shortcuts from that one little "drop" of the milk into the refrigerator shelf? Part 3 of the shortcut story brings the point home even more! You see our shortcut might be really quick and seem like no big deal; however, the process and developments of trying to "fix" the damage from the shortcut seems to take MUCH longer itself!
This pre-marital counseling was extremely informative and professional while gently bringing things to light. They were both very polite and accommodating to our schedule. When we felt we needed a little bit more guidance they set up another meeting to discuss some concerns.
We learned in Shorcuts - Part 1 that there was a "price to pay" for not simply bending down and placing the milk in the shelf correctly. This week we will learn that trying to band-aid or duct tape our relationships will not be a permanent fix. We must take the TIME to develop and/or process issues as they arise. If we take the shortcut route, we are hindering our growth as a couple. It's your choice, what will it be?
We live in a FAST-PACED society! Most of us want everything RIGHT NOW! Many times we are looking for a "shortcut" so we can move on to the next thing. However, we must understand relationships will NEVER be able to mature and grow "correctly" if we try to shortcut the steps of development and process of them. Never forget...there is always a downside to "shortcut" a relationship! Do you really want to deprive yourself of ALL that God intended for you?
When it is raining outside, do you grab an umbrella? When you go to the beach, do you put sunscreen on? When the sun is brightly shining, do you grab your sunglasses? If you go to the gym do you wear gloves while lifting weights or boxing? Our guess is you answered YES to all of these questions. So what do all of these items have in common? For each question, there is a "protection" if you will for the answer. We don't want to get wet, so we grab an umbrella to PROTECT us! We don't want skin cancer, so we use sunscreen to PROTECT our skin and so forth. Now the BIGGEST question we have for you is...Who or what is PROTECTING your relationship?